When architectural historian Mark Girouard coined the phrase ‘power houses’ to describe stately homes, he wrote only about men and their roles. But what was it like to be a woman in one these ‘power houses’? In particular, how much did the female head of the household, the mistress of the house, share the power? This paper will explore the roles that women played in building the houses, in running the families and household, and in managing the networks that shaped elite life, and how they were central in shaping life in the country house.








